Do things happen FOR or TO you?

When we don’t like the way things are going, we often think why is this happening to me? This phrase nurtures victim thinking because many things happen in life that we simply can’t control. We have no guarantees about our health. We cannot control circumstances or losses. We also can’t control the thoughts, feelings or behavior of others.

Here is my suggestion. Decide to notice when you get stuck in why did this happen to me? moments. Instead ask yourself, why is this happening FOR me? What is this difficulty teaching me? How can this be a part of the process of my wisdom, spiritual growth or strength building endurance that will someday impact others. This phrase will save you misery if you nurture it and believe it.